Consent Guide

We want the Menagerie to be a space where you can safely explore your sexuality and desires. Consent is an integral part of creating such a safe and open environment.

Consent is the clear and enthusiastic agreement to engage in physical contact or sexual activity. Consent can be given or revoked at any time. There are many ways to express consent, but at Menagerie events we recommend giving and revoking consent verbally to be completely clear. Attendance at Menagerie events is NOT de facto consent for any and all kinds of touch or sexual contact. It’s entirely up to each guest how they choose to enjoy Menagerie events, whether that’s through engaging in sex, voyeurism, or avoiding play altogether. Consent for one activity, such as impact play, is not consent for all other activities, such as sexual contact. If you behave in a way that violates consent, you and the companion you came with will be removed from the venue and banned from future events. Non-consensual sex or sexual touching is assault. Assault is an affront on our shared humanity and it is a crime. Any allegations of assault at our events will be taken extremely seriously. We will fully support any victims of assault if they choose to report the incident to the appropriate authorities.

You MUST:

  • ASK before making any kind of physical contact with another guest. After asking, you need to wait and be sure of the reply before proceeding.
  • Respect other guests’ play activities. If you want to watch someone else’s play activity, try as much as possible to determine whether they’re comfortable with that. If you want to join in, use your judgement to determine if it would be appropriate to ask.
  • Respect safewords and safe signals – including the house safeword, which will be communicated to you on the night. If anyone you are interacting with uses a safeword or safe signal you must stop what you’re doing immediately.

We ENCOURAGE you to:

  • Discuss expectations and set limits before engaging in play. Even experienced play partners should have a pre-scene discussion to confirm any changes and establish a safeword or safe signal.
  • Continue to communicate during your play experience, and engage in mid-scene discussion and negotiation when necessary.
  • Report any concerns or incidents on the night to event organisers – you can spot us by our glowing armbands.
  • Provide feedback using the email address below to help us improve our consent guidelines and create safer and more welcoming events.

What should I do if I feel unsafe during the event?

Event organisers will be on hand to help if you feel unsafe or feel that your consent has been violated at any point - you can spot us by our glowing armbands. If you feel uncomfortable while engaging in play during the event you can stop things immediately by using the house safeword, which will be communicated to everyone on the night.

Safer Spaces

The safety and well-being of guests at Menagerie events is the most important thing for us. You can help us in our work to create a safer space by letting us know at the event if anyone is behaving in a way that does not uphold consent and respect. If we’re informed on the night, we can take appropriate action to remove people from the event, terminate their membership, and escalate to the appropriate authorities (with consent from any other guests involved). If you don’t feel safe or comfortable reporting an incident or expressing your concerns during the event, you can email the event organisers at menagerie.parties@proton.me at any time. You can also use this email address to let us know if you have any feedback or suggestions about how we can improve our consent guidelines.