📏 Policies & Guidelines

At Menagerie, creating a comfortable, respectful, and welcoming experience for all attendees is very important to us. To help ensure that everyone enjoys a safe space, we’ve put together this guide outlining the rules and expectations for consent and conduct. Please take a moment to read and absorb these guidelines before attending any event.

General Rules

Consent is key – All attendees must read and agree to follow our Consent Guide (below).
Age Requirement – Guests must be 21 or over to attend.
Respect Event Organisers – Please be courteous and respectful to those running the event. They are there to help and ensure your safety.
Respect the Public – When arriving and leaving the event, be respectful of members of the public. This includes being fully dressed in public spaces.
Smoking Area Etiquette – Keep nudity and sexual behaviour to a minimum in the outdoor smoking area.
No Public Play – Public play outside the venue is not permitted.
Respectful Outfits – Avoid wearing outfits or imagery that could be triggering to marginalised groups, such as Nazi uniforms or swastikas.
No Judgement – Don’t judge other attendees’ preferences, desires, kinks, acts, bodies, or appearances.
Pleasure, Not Orgasm – The goal of our events is to enjoy the experience, not solely focus on orgasm.
Event Organisers – Event organisers will be on hand during the event. You can easily spot them by their glowing armbands.

Code of Conduct

We strive to make Menagerie events a space where everyone feels comfortable exploring their sexuality in a safe, supportive, and inclusive environment. Please follow the guidelines below:

Inclusive Environment – Menagerie is a space free of judgment and stigma. Comments or actions that demean, harass, or insult others are not tolerated. This includes actions targeting someone’s race, ethnicity, age, gender, sexual orientation, physical appearance, or ability.
Event Organisers’ Authority – Event organisers have the right to remove any attendee who violates the code of conduct, disrupts the event, or makes others feel uncomfortable. If you experience any issues, please speak to an organiser or email us at menagerie.parties@proton.me.
Don’t Yuck Someone’s Yum - At our play parties, you might witness sexual acts that you do not find appealing. This is normal and okay. We only ask that you respect others in their exploration of pleasure as you navigate your own. In other words: don’t yuck someone else’s yum!

Phone Policy at Play Events

While we encourage you to unplug for the evening, you may keep your phone with you in the upstairs no-play area. Please note that photography and videography are strictly prohibited throughout the evening, and we’ll provide stickers to cover your phone’s camera.

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Consent is the enthusiastic and clear agreement to engage in physical contact or sexual activity. Consent must be given willingly and can be revoked at any time. To ensure clarity, we recommend giving and revoking consent verbally.

Consent is not automatic – Attendance at a Menagerie event is not consent for any and all physical contact or sexual activity.
Activity-Specific Consent – Consent for one activity (e.g., impact play) is not consent for all activities (e.g., sexual contact).
Non-consensual Touching – Non-consensual sex or touching is assault and will not be tolerated. Any allegations will be taken seriously, and we will support victims in reporting to the appropriate authorities.

You MUST:

Ask for Consent – Always ask before making physical contact. Wait for a clear reply before proceeding.
Respect Others’ Play – If you want to watch someone else’s play activity, ensure they are comfortable with it. Ask before joining in, if appropriate.
Respect Safewords – If someone uses a safeword or safe signal, stop immediately. The house safeword will be communicated at the event.

We ENCOURAGE You To:

Set Expectations – Discuss your boundaries and limits with your play partner(s) before engaging in any play.
Ongoing Communication – Continue to communicate and adjust during play. Don’t hesitate to engage in mid-scene discussion if necessary.
Report Concerns – If anything makes you feel uncomfortable during the event, please report it to an event organiser immediately.

Respecting Boundaries and Saying No

At Menagerie, we celebrate consensual, respectful connection between people of all genders, sexualities, shapes, and sizes. While we encourage curiosity and exploration, no one is ever expected to say yes to an invitation to play.

If someone approaches you and you’re not interested—whether it’s due to personal preferences, mood, energy, or anything else—that is absolutely okay. You don’t owe anyone your time, energy, or body. What we do ask is that you express your “no” clearly and kindly.

For example:

“Thank you, but I’m not interested.” “I appreciate you asking, but I’m going to pass.” “I’m not feeling up for that, but I hope you have a good night.”

You don’t need to give a reason, but we do expect you to communicate in a way that respects the other person’s humanity. This is especially important in a space where people are encouraged to be vulnerable and take risks.

At the same time, if you’re on the receiving end of a “no,” take it with grace. Consent includes the ability to say no, and that boundary must be respected immediately and without negotiation. Our goal is to create a safer, more inclusive space where people feel empowered to both explore and decline. Respecting one another’s autonomy is central to that.

What Should I Do if I Feel Unsafe?

Event organisers will be available to assist if you feel unsafe or if your consent has been violated. You can easily spot organisers by their glowing armbands. If needed, you can use the house safeword to stop play at any time.

If you don’t feel comfortable reporting something during the event, you may do so after the event. See our Report a Grievance page for more details.

Safer Spaces

The safety and well-being of everyone at Menagerie events is our top priority. If you feel someone is violating the consent and respect guidelines, let us know. We can take appropriate action to address the situation, including removing individuals from the event or escalating the issue to the proper authorities.

If you ever feel unsafe or need assistance after the event, don’t hesitate to contact us via email, menagerie.parties@proton.me

Sexual Health & Safety

Take Responsibility – You are responsible for your own (and each other’s) sexual health. Please use appropriate contraception and take measures to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Ultimately it is up to you to communicate your preferred sexual health practices with your play partners. Please wash your hands between play scenes and partners.
Protection Provided – We’ll provide condoms, dental dams, lube, antibacterial wipes, wet wipes, puppy pads, and a first aid kit. You are also welcome to bring your own protection and sanitary supplies.
Get Tested – We encourage everyone to get a sexual health check before attending our events, however we do not require test results for entry. More information about local sexual health services is available on the Brighton & Hove Sexual Health & Contraception Service website.

Event Monitors, Welfare Officers, and Organisers

To help keep Menagerie events safe and supportive, we have trained Monitors and Welfare Officers present throughout the night. They are there to assist you, look out for your wellbeing, and help uphold our consent policies. You’ll spot them by their glowing armbands.

Monitors & Welfare Officers

Always professional. Our team is there to help, not to flirt or mingle. They won’t engage in any physical or flirty interactions while they’re on duty — even hugs are off-limits unless it’s part of their role and clearly consensual.
There to support, not participate. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, need someone to talk to, or spot something concerning, find a Monitor. They’re there for you.
Are there to help—if you’re feeling overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or notice someone in distress, please approach them.
Boundaries go both ways. If a guest flirts with a Monitor during their shift, they’ll kindly let you know they’re working and suggest reconnecting after the event if it’s appropriate.

Organisers Attending as Guests

Our organisers sometimes attend events as guests, just like you. But when they do, we take extra care to make sure their presence doesn’t blur lines or create any unequal power dynamics.

Here’s how we handle that:

When they’re guests, they’re just guests. Organisers might be at the party, but unless they’re actively working, they’re not running the show that night.
They’ll tell you who they are. If you approach someone who’s an organiser, they’ll let you know: “Just so you know, I help organise Menagerie events. Tonight I’m here as a guest, but I want to be transparent about that.” This helps make sure there’s no confusion or unspoken pressure in your interaction.
They’re mindful about post-event connections. If something romantic or personal develops after an event between an organiser and a guest, we ask organisers to name the power dynamic early on and have an honest chat about what that means. For example: “I want to flag that I help run these events, and that might carry a bit of a power imbalance. I want to make sure we both feel good and clear about how we move forward.”

Drugs and Alcohol

Please do not bring alcohol or drugs to the venue. There will be a bar available where you can purchase drinks. However, if you appear visibly intoxicated or unable to engage safely and respectfully, you may be asked to leave.

Drugs are strictly prohibited on the premises. Anyone found in possession of illegal substances will be removed from the event. Your ability to give and receive clear, enthusiastic consent depends on your capacity to be present and aware—please help us keep Menagerie safe and grounded.

We hope this guide helps you feel safe, supported, and excited to explore at Menagerie events. Thank you for helping us create a welcoming environment for all!