Frequently Asked Questions
🔒 Attending Menagerie
What can I expect at your events?
See our About page for full details. In short: expect a warm, inclusive environment with social connection, optional icebreaker activities, and (at play parties) optional consensual play in a carefully curated venue. Consent, curiosity, and respect are central to everything we do.
Do I need to be vetted to attend?
Vetting is required for play parties. Socials are open to everyone and do not require vetting. See our Vetting & Tickets page for details.
Can I come alone?
You can attend socials solo. Play parties must be attended in pairs or trios, see our Vetting & Tickets page for full details.
Do you require COVID testing?
If you’re unwell, please stay home. Testing is encouraged but not required.
🎟️ Tickets & Refunds
Can I get a refund?
We offer refunds up to 36 hours before an event if it has sold out. After that, refunds are discretionary depending on circumstances, email us.
Can I transfer my ticket?
Tickets are non-transferable between events or people.
If someone in your group can no longer attend, you may bring a replacement guest only if they are already vetted and you notify us in advance.
👕 Dress
What should I wear to a play party?
Wear whatever makes you feel confident and comfortable. People usually start in clubwear or expressive outfits and may undress during the evening depending on comfort and consent.
Themes are optional. Pinterest inspiration is available if needed.
What should I wear to a social?
Think expressive but pub-appropriate. Leave explicit kinkwear for play parties.
Can I wear perfume?
Please keep scents light, strong fragrances can affect others.
🏳️🌈 Inclusivity & Identity
Who can attend?
Menagerie is for adults aged 21+, with a particular welcome to women and LGBTQ+ people. Play parties require that each group includes at least one woman or LGBTQ+ person.
I’m straight, can I attend?
Yes, as long as your group meets the attendance requirement above.
How do you verify identity requirements?
We use a trust-based system. No documentation is required, we trust self-identification.
What if my name or gender differs from my ID?
That’s completely fine. We are trans-inclusive and respect self-identified names and pronouns. You will never be asked to justify your identity.
🤝 Accessibility
Is your venue wheelchair accessible?
Our current venues are not wheelchair accessible due to stairs. We are actively working to improve accessibility in future venues.
Are the spaces noisy or dark?
Play spaces may be low-lit, and social areas can be lively. Quieter spaces are available if you need a break.
Are gender-neutral toilets available?
Yes, where possible. If not, this will be stated clearly in event info.
🍑 Etiquette & Safety
What should I bring?
Optional: towel, toys, lube, condoms, robe, water bottle.
We also provide safer sex supplies, wipes, and basic first aid.
What shouldn’t I bring?
No drugs or alcohol. Excess intoxication may result in refusal of entry or removal.
Phone policy?
Phones only in social areas. No photography or video. Camera stickers are provided.
💗 Consent Culture
What are your values?
We are consent-led, queer-positive, kink-positive, and body-inclusive. Discrimination or harassment of any kind is not tolerated.
What if someone approaches me and I’m not interested?
It’s completely fine to say no. A simple “no thank you” is enough. No explanation is required, but we ask that boundaries are communicated respectfully.
What if I see sexual activity I don’t like?
You may move away or leave the space. We ask that guests respect others’ consensual interactions.
Can I flirt with staff?
Staff wear wristbands for identification and are not available for play or flirting while working. Some organisers attend as guests, they will clarify their role.