🔍 FAQs

Frequently Asked Questions

🔒 Attending Menagerie

What can I expect at your events?

Check out our About Us page for more details! In short: expect a warm, inclusive environment, icebreaker games, mingling, and optional play (at our play events) in a beautifully curated venue. Connection, consent, and curiosity are at the heart of everything we do.

Do I need to be vetted to attend?

Yes, vetting is required to attend play parties. However, our socials are open to everyone and do not require vetting. Visit our Vetting & Tickets page for more information on the vetting process and how to purchase tickets.

Can I come to events alone?

You’re welcome to attend socials solo—no vetting required. However, play parties must be attended in pairs or trios. For full details on attendance and eligibility, check out our Vetting & Tickets page.

Do you require COVID testing for events?

If you’re feeling unwell, we ask that you stay home. Testing is encouraged but not mandatory. See our refund policy if you can’t attend due to illness.

🎟️ Tickets and Refunds

I can no longer attend. Can I get a refund?

We offer full refunds up to 36 hours before the event, if the event has sold out. Within 36 hours, we may offer a partial or no refund depending on the situation—just email us.

Can I transfer my ticket to someone else or to a future event?

We do not allow ticket transfers between events or to other people. However, if someone in your group can’t attend, you may bring a new partner—but only if they have already been vetted and you email us in advance with their name. Unvetted or unregistered guests will be denied entry at the door.

👙 Dress

What should I wear at a play party?

Dress in whatever makes you feel most sexy! We encourage people to use clothing as a form of self expression and playfulness. Typically people start off the night wearing clothing that might be more pub or club appropriate, although this varies by person and we encourage you to dress as sexy as you like. After the ice breaker games, people typically opt to dress down to lingerie for cuddling and play. Many choose to take all clothing off as the night progresses. Our play parties have themes which are encouraged but not mandatory, wear whatever makes you feel sexy. 🖤 Need inspo? Check out our Pinterest boards.

Think expressive but pub-appropriate. Leave explicit kinkwear or lingerie for play parties—use your judgment and aim for something you’d wear to a cool queer bar.

Can I wear perfume?

Please go easy—strong scents can be overwhelming or triggering for others.

🏳️‍🌈 Inclusivity & Identity

Who can attend?

Menagerie is for people of all genders and sexualities aged 21+, with a particular welcome to women and LGBTQ+ folks. To attend a play party, your group must include at least one woman or LGBTQ+ person.

I don’t understand your “at least one member of your group has to be a woman or LGBTQ+ member” policy. What does that mean and how do you verify it? What’s the point of this?

We operate on a trust system. We welcome anyone who self-identifies as a woman or as a member of the LGBTQ+ community, and we trust what you tell us—no documentation or “proof” required.

By woman, we mean anyone who self-identifies as a woman, including trans women. By LGBTQ+, we mean anyone who identifies as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, non-binary, pansexual, asexual, or otherwise outside of heteronormative or cisnormative identities.

Some example groups that meet this requirement include:

A straight cis man and a straight cis woman
A non-binary queer person and a bisexual cis woman
Three bi cis men
A queer cis man and a trans woman

There are many combinations that meet our criteria, and we’re here for them all. This policy isn’t about gatekeeping—it’s about creating safer, more inclusive spaces. Our goal is for play parties to have at least 50% of guests be women and/or LGBTQ+, because we recognise that these groups often face greater barriers to access, expression, and safety in traditional play spaces due to pervasive patriarchal and heteronormative dynamics.

I’m straight—can I attend?

Yes, as long as your group includes a woman or LGBTQ+ member.

What if my name or gender doesn’t match my ID?

That’s absolutely fine. We are a trans-inclusive space, and we don’t care what’s on your documents. Your self-identified name and gender are what matter to us, and we will always honour them. We know that legal names and gender markers on IDs don’t always reflect who someone truly is—and updating those documents can be a long, difficult, or even unsafe process. At Menagerie, you will never be asked to justify your identity, and we will never question the name or pronouns you share with us.

🤝 Accessibility & Comfort

Is your venue wheelchair accessible?

The venues we currently use for both our socials and play parties have one set of stairs and are unfortunately not wheelchair accessible. This is something we’re actively mindful of, and we are working toward securing more accessible venues for future events.

Will there be low lighting or noise?

We’ll have low lighting in the downstairs play space to create a comfortable atmosphere. Please be aware that at all of our events, it can get a bit noisy during mingling times, but we have outdoor spaces available if you need a quieter environment or a bit of fresh air.

Are gender-neutral toilets available?

Yes, we strive to only use venues with gender-neutral toilets available. If this is not possible for any reason, this will be clear in the ticket description.

Is there somewhere to change at the venue for play parties?

Toilets are available, but queues can build up. We recommend wearing your play outfit under your street clothes for easier transitions.

🍑 Party Etiquette & Safety

What should I bring to a play party?

Optional but helpful: a towel (we provide some, but not enough for everyone), your favourite toys, lube, condoms, a robe, and a reusable water bottle (open drinks aren’t allowed in the play area). We’ll provide condoms, dental dams, lube, antibacterial wipes, wet wipes, puppy pads, and a first aid kit.

What shouldn’t I bring to events?

Do not bring alcohol or drugs. There’s a bar onsite for drinks. If you’re visibly intoxicated, you may be asked to leave. Drugs are strictly prohibited.

What’s your phone policy at play parties?

Keep phones in the upstairs social space only. Photography and videography are strictly prohibited. We’ll provide stickers for your camera lens to help keep everyone safe.

What are Menagerie’s values?

We are queer-positive, kink-positive, body-positive, and radically inclusive. We have a zero-tolerance policy for racism, transphobia, homophobia, sexism, fatphobia, ableism, or any form of discrimination.

What if someone approaches me to play, but I’m not interested?

At our play parties, we celebrate consensual, respectful connection between people of all genders, sexualities, shapes, and sizes. You are never expected to say yes to anyone—your boundaries are valid and should be honored. If someone approaches you for play and you’re not interested, it’s completely okay to say no. Whether you’re not attracted to them, not in the mood, or just want to do your own thing—that’s enough reason. What we ask is that you communicate your “no” clearly and kindly, in a way that respects the other person’s humanity.

For example, if you’re a lesbian and a cis man invites you to play, you can simply say, “Thanks, but I’m not interested.” You never have to justify your boundaries—but you do have a responsibility to express them in a respectful way. Our aim is to create a space where people feel safe to explore, and that means respecting both your own limits and those of others. Consent includes giving and receiving rejection with grace.

What if I see sexual acts I find uncomfortable?

You might see things that aren’t your vibe, and that’s okay. We ask that you don’t “yuck someone else’s yum.” You’re free to look away, move to another area, or step outside for air.

What if I’m attracted to a staff member?

Our staff wear glowing pink wristbands and will introduce themselves at the start. We’re flattered, but not available for play or flirtation during the event. Some helpers attend as regular guests—no wristband means they’re here to party like you. For more details, see our Policies and Guidelines page.